Cyber Love and Marriage

By staff reporter ZHANG XUEYING

Lilies are everywhere in the Baihe office, because they have the same Chinese pronunciation as the company name.

Tian Fanjiang, founder of Baihe.com. Baihe staff constantly improve their services to meet subscribers’ needs.

One-year-old Baihe.com is China’s largest cyber matchmaker. As successful an operation as its US counterpart, eHarmony.com, Baihe has more than 5.76 million subscribers -- an impressive proportion of China’s 110 million netizens.

Finding marriage partners is increasingly difficult for young Chinese metropolites, according to statistics. “The sonic modern lifestyle, broad preference for a more extravert personality and increased awareness of personal worth all combine to challenge traditional marriage and courtship rituals,” says Tong Xin, professor of sociology at Beijing University.

There are fears that this updated approach to love and marriage will cause social problems. Every Tuesday and Saturday, hundreds of anxious parents gather in Zizhuyuan Park to exchange information in the hope of finding ideal matches for their offspring. There is a similar scenario each Thursday and Sunday in Zhongshan Park.

“I am totally occupied with my work, my only social contacts colleagues and former classmates. On the occasions they have introduced me to new people the lack of common conversation topics has made it an embarrassing experience,” Liang Yu says. She refuses to take her parents’ advice and try a matrimonial agency because as she sees it, “Only complete failures in love would seek that kind of help!”

Tian Fanjiang is the CEO of Baihe.com Online Technology Company, Ltd, which he founded in May 2005. At the time he left his job at the top management consulting company Accenture, Tian and his associates had decided to open an SNS (social networking service) website for those seeking to make friends online, widen their circle of business contacts or simply marry. It was soon apparent that 80 percent of subscribers were looking for marriage partners. At the time Baihe was founded there were 100 or so matchmaking websites in China. One of them, love21cn.com, based in Shanghai, had accumulated over 500,000 subscribers since its establishment in 2003. It claims to have helped 30,000 people find marriage partners.

Most matchmaking sites ask subscribers to give personal details such as age, personality, type of work and level of salary by means of a present code. Liang, 27, publicized her basic information on several sites and met six net-friends before finding the right man.

Tian Fanjiang used eHarmony, the most successful matchmaking website in the US, as the template for Baihe.com. EHarmony was founded by a 70-year-old psychologist. With the help of other specialists, he formulated a questionnaire comprising hundreds of questions in dozens of dimensions, designed to highlight the most compatible partners.

Baihe subscribers fill out a questionnaire jointly compiled by the company and a Chinese college. It works on the principle of whittling down the millions of candidates to a small group of those most compatible. This was a hugely successful method, and in just six months the number of subscribers reached three million. “We were stunned, but then I remembered that at the time we founded Baihe, investors told us: ‘By next year, the number of hits on you website should reach 10,000 a day,’” Tian recalls. In the months following, Tian set to work upgrading Baihe servers to accommodate an ever-greater users’ flow.

“One of my best friends introduced me to Baihe after it helped her find a good guy,” Liang Yu tells me, continuing, “After registering, I was asked to spend 30 minutes on a psychological assessment. When the test report came out it seemed to me to make sense. The website is completely professional, scientific and trustworthy. It introduced potential partners to me, via their test reports, at the rate of three per day. When I finally chose one that seemed suitable, we began seeing each other. He is now my husband.”

When searching for a spouse, the Chinese emphasis is on the prospective bride or groom’s marital history and family background. The latter takes greatest precedence because, in the Chinese view, marriage unites not only two persons but two households. Baihe recently provided a new service whereby relatives of a matched pair may chat and get to know one another on the net.

With its five million subscribers, Baihe’s current priority is to improve its service. It has achieved this by redesigning its web page, and providing chat rooms and BBS. Baihe also offers a service for buying sweethearts virtual gifts and sending them short messages via their mobile phones, on a paid basis.

Tian’s knottiest problem is how to impose fees on subscribers. Paying customers are the main source of profit for overseas Internet matchmaking websites. The 20 percent of eHarmony’s seven million subscribers that are paying customers brought the company a profit of US $70 million in 2004 -- 15 times the turnover of the Chinese Internet matchmaking market.

In China, profits are inhibited by technological problems as well as conventional attitudes. “We initially attempted to charge customers, but failed. So we started to improve our services to meet the market, which I believe will pay off, ” says Tian with confidence.

A report by IResearch, a consultant company that specializes in topical Internet issues, predicts a bright future for websites such as Baihe. The report, entitled Research on Chinese Internet Matchmaking Market in 2005, confirms that Internet matchmaking is profitable. Netizens intending to make friends online in 2005 increased to 46.4 million, an increase of 39.3 percent over 2004. IResearch predicts that this figure will hit 110 million in 2008 and that the market revenue will approach RMB one billion, 70 percent of which will emanate from spouse seekers.

The success of matchmaking websites reflects changes in attitudes towards marriage on the part of Chinese youth. As Tian Fanjiang says, “Matchmaking websites mainly aim for netizens aged about 30, because they grew up with the net and generally reject the traditional matchmaking mode that relies on old friends or parents.”

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